The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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- Health & Fitness
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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IMPERFIX: Truth vs Harmony with Dr Em
In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit one of our most popular episodes ever and in it, a topic that is very close to Hugh, Ryan and Josh’s respective bones. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.
Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? And how does living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?
To listen to the full Truth Vs Harmony episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IW3gbw
To listen to Hamish Blake's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/IppXW33h
And to hear the follow up bonus episode, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/MkZXfc8yThe Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure
Very few people have experienced Gary Barlow’s level of success and fame. He’s the lead singer of the nineties British pop band Take That, he’s won 6 Ivor Novello Awards for song writing & composing, sold more the 50 million albums and filled stadiums of screaming fans across the world! But despite all this, as we’ve come to learn, he’s one of the nicest, most genuine people going around.
In this episode, Gary shares his experience of rising to such fame, and what happens when he lost it.
He opens up about the devastating burden of jealousy between him and bandmate Robbie Williams, his journey with disordered eating, the loss of his daughter Poppy and the love of his life, the one constant through it all - his wife.
So sit back and pour yourself a cup of vulnerabilitea, this is a big one.
To buy tickets to Take That’s upcoming tour of Australia and New Zealand visit: https://bit.ly/3INExGA.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4crzmJT
To hear Ryan’s episode on shame & jealousy, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/D_21alUg
To hear Hamish Blake’s episode on his friendship with Ryan & Hugh, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/IppXW33h.
To listen to Gina Chick’s episode, follow this link https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick.
The Robbie Williams documentary is available on Netflix: https://bit.ly/493WWta.
For film recommendation ‘Salt Burn’ follow this link: https://apple.co/3x3GvQp.
To purchase your own set of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR
If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:
The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO
This episode with Gary Barlow includes a discussion about disordered eating and a conversation about a child who was delivered still born. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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IMPERFIX: Christian O'Connell's Panic Attacks
In 2018, Christian O Connell was one of the most successful people in British Radio, he was on top of his world, and then…the panic attacks began. The attacks got so bad and so regular that he couldn’t perform live and it nearly cost him his career.
In this episode, we revisit Christian’s experience, the physical and mental toll of his panic attacks as well as the societal pressures and expectations he felt as a man - his need to appear strong and provide for his family.
And we hear how he eventually sought for help and started rebuilding his life.
To hear the full episode with Christian, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/UunNrODW
You can purchase a copy of Christian’s book here: https://bit.ly/3IKdFqI
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Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too
“Get your butterflies in formation”. If you take one thing away from this episode, it’s how to handle the nervous, anxious, flutter of stomach butterflies that arises when we’re socially anxious.
Social interactions can be challenging. You may believe that everyone else has all their shit figured out and can effortlessly walk into a social situation and just be themselves. But it turns out, we all, at some point, get social anxiety.
In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily, delves deeper into what it means to experience social anxiety, before during & after a social situation. She explores the ways in which anxiety shows up, where it might come from and what we can do to “get our butterflies in formation”.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/I53wE7epCX0
To listen to Dr Emily's episode on The Inner Critic, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic
To listen to Dr Emily's episode on Rejection Sensitivity, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/rejectionsensitivity_
To purchase The Resilience Project's gratitude & wellbeing journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7
To learn more about the four domains of social anxiety & read David Moscovitch's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43fDuIy
To learn more about The Spotlight Effect & see research Dr Em sited by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Husted Medvec, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cd4Rr0
For book recommendation, How To be Yourself, by Ellen Hendriksen and to learn more about her free online course 'Rise Above Social Anxiety', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TAol1o
To dive deeper into Lisa Feldman Barret's work, including the research on reframing anxiety as arousal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VhjuTV
To learn more about Safety Behaviours and their role in social anxiety, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3wTqBIp & https://bit.ly/43hfp4a & https://bit.ly/3vhjR6oTo participate in a free Cognitive Behavioural Therapy study run by The Black Dog Institute & UNSW, aimed at reducing social anxiety, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49cvV6M
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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IMPERFIX: Kate Langbroek on The Risks of Love
Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person. We absolutely love her, and we’re clearly not alone. Kate, has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel; with her mate Hughesy on the radio; or in countless podcasts, and radio shows since. On this episode of The Imperfix, we revisit, when in 2022, Kate generously shared with us what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now.
To hear the full episode with Kate, follow this link https://link.chtbl.com/Xpoxirxe.
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Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential
World leading organisational psychologists, Adam Grant is this week's guest in The Academy of Imperfection and honestly, we can’t believe how much ground the brilliant man managed to cover in this episode.
I mean, sure, you might expect him to touch on the value of embracing our imperfections. Or perhaps he might explore imposter syndrome & the importance in believing in others' belief in yourself. Or how procrastination can actually be a creative force. Or maybe even some tips for those of us who have found ourselves languishing.
All of this might seem pretty reasonable stuff to cover. However you might not expect a deep dive into the lessons learned from a junior olympic diving career or an actual magic trick! This ep covers it all…and much much more.
To watch this episode on youtube (and see the magic trick) follow this link: https://youtu.be/s2sY3-mT-u8
If you’re interested in hearing more from Adam, the best place to start is his website: https://adamgrant.net
Recommended books & articles mentioned in the episode:
Hidden Potential, The Science of Achieving Greater Things, by Adam Grant: https://bit.ly/3wBynWW
Give and Take, A Revolutionary Approach to Success, by Adam Grant: https://bit.ly/3TrKwqI
Creativity Inc: Overcoming Unseen Forces That Stand In The Way of True Inspiration, by Ed Catmull: https://bit.ly/49ZgNur
Born Standing Up: A Comics Life, by Steve Martin: https://bit.ly/3TnZTjK
It’s Called Languishing (article) by Adam Grant https://nyti.ms/48J86Uf
Listen to Adam’s interview with Steve Martin on his ReThinking Podcast: https://bit.ly/3Tosvtb and transcript: https://bit.ly/3T3cKXa
To watch Matthew Mitcham’s dive, follow think link: https://bit.ly/3InmPJJ
To listen to our episode with Dr Emily on Truth vs Harmony, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/R8gly4ci
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